If you suffer from low confidence and self-esteem, your negativity could have a knock-on effect on your child. Use our action checklist to cut out self-criticism – and give your child’s body confidence a boost, too.
How to build confidence and self-esteem
|How to build confidence and self-esteem|
"We need to become more aware of the negative comments we make about our own bodies or the way we criticize our own eating patterns, as this insecurity can be picked up by our daughters."
Dr Phillippa Diedrichs
Be aware of throwaway comments
Think about how you talk about and critique your body in front of your child. If you often say things like: "Do you think these jeans make me look fat?", "I've got to do something about this muffin-top" or “My hair looks awful at the moment”, it's time to drop the negative comments
Be kind to yourself
Smile at yourself in the mirror and focus on at least one thing every day that you like about yourself and the way you look
Start saying positive things about your body and personality out loud. The more you say it, the more likely you are to believe it
Write yourself a message
Write positive messages about how you look and how you’d like to feel on sticky notes and stick them around your house. Messages like "Hello gorgeous" or "You're perfect just the way you are" are great reminders for both you and your child
- Share the Cracking Compliments video with your child – it's a fun way to learn about the power of a compliment
- Chat with your child. Do they think you criticise yourself a lot? How does it make them feel?
- Agree a pact that they’ll gently pick you up every time you're unkind to yourself? Maybe if you go a whole week without self-criticizing, the two of you can enjoy a shared treat