Talking to young people– Dove Self-Esteem Project
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    Be specific

    It’s easy to misinterpret what someone says, so choose your words carefully. "If you are offering her a compliment, be as specific as you can so she doesn't misunderstand your true meaning."

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    Signal first

    If you want to offer criticism or guidance, signal it first to soften what you're saying, for example: "This might be something you won't like me saying, but I think it can come across as rude if you…"

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    Listen carefully

    If you're online or watching TV, stop what you're doing to show you care about the conversation. If it's something you can’t stop, like driving or dealing with another child, say, "I really want to talk about this properly. Can we continue later when I can give you my full attention?

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    Take your time

    Next time your child flares up at something you say, think about exactly what it was – even write it down if you can remember. How specific were you? Was there too much room for interpretation? How could you phrase it better next time?


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