The Parent Translator: A tool to help improve communication

Choose your moment carefully and gently chat to them about the importance of communication and why you care so much about creating a safe space between the two of you. Once you’ve made a start, ask them to think about the way the two of you talk. Do you ever misinterpret what the other one means? Are there certain phrases or topics that make them feel uncomfortable, unheard or unseen? This will help you set out some boundaries that work for both of you.

Sometimes, being vulnerable feels like the hardest thing to do with someone close to us. When you’re thinking about how to communicate with your children, make a note to reassure them that you’ll love them no matter what. As your parent-child communication develops over time, you can both discuss what suits you and how you could approach things differently to keep growing together.

Talking to children isn’t always easy. Your child might not feel comfortable opening up at first, so it’s important to be patient and understanding of what they’re going through. When you focus on staying patient, you can override any reactive behavior, so that you can be present for your child when they need you. Plus, if there are any misunderstandings or misinterpretations throughout your conversations, patience will help you clarify what you mean so both of you can stay on the same page.

Whenever communication becomes difficult and it feels like an argument might be on the horizon, take a moment to yourself and come back to this checklist to make sure you’re making the most of your parent-children communication skills. Think of it as a helpful bit of back-up for any tense moments.