• 1
    Look out for hurtful comments

    Be alert at family gatherings and conscious of any comments or conversations about weight, body shape, dieting or appearance that are negative or might make your child feel embarrassed or self-conscious

  • 2
    Step in to change the subject

    Try to steer the conversation elsewhere without making a fuss – you can approach individuals later if necessary. Check in with your child to let them know that those types of comments are not OK, that they are perfect just the way they are, and that you are there if they want to talk

  • 3
    Have a quiet word

    If someone in the family is continuing to tease your child (or someone else in front of your child) about their appearance or body, consider speaking with them in private. Don’t use language that is overly emotional or confrontational. Sometimes you will need to be subtle; other occasions may call for a more direct approach

  • 4

    Explain the situation

    Emphasise to family members the importance of avoiding talking about looks and placing too much emphasis on appearance. You may want to ask them not to comment on your child’s body or appearance at all


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