Shakia Stewart, 28

Being soft often carries negative connotations – like being easily influenced or weak. However, embracing softness can be a true strength. The more confident you are in yourself, the more you can allow yourself to be soft. True strength doesn't always need to be displayed through hardness; you can be both soft and strong.

Key Takeaways

  • Embrace Softness as Strength: True confidence allows you to be both soft and strong, challenging negative perceptions.
  • Self-Acceptance Redefines Beauty: Accepting your unique identity, like Shakia Stewart's journey with her heritage, is crucial for authentic beauty.
  • Authenticity in All Settings: Confidence empowers you to be your genuine self, even in professional environments, fostering respect without needing to act tough.
  • Natural Beauty is Key: Prioritizing naturalness, self-care, and embracing unique features, such as afro hair, enhances self-confidence and real beauty.

I never saw myself reflected in the Disney princesses I admired, being half Jamaican and half English. I spent countless hours trying to alter my appearance, hoping to fit in. Yet, it was only when I truly accepted who I was that I began to...


Early in my career, I often felt compelled to act tough, believing that suppressing emotions would demonstrate strength and capability. Now, with greater self-confidence, I no longer feel the need to maintain that facade. I can be friendly, smile, and even be a bit silly at work, while still being authoritative, respected, and performing exceptionally.

Perhaps the more confident you are in yourself, the softer you can be.

For me, beauty's softness lies in naturalness. While I once spent too much time straightening my hair, I now embrace my natural afro and curly hair, which has become a significant part of my identity. It's strange to reflect on that past effort, as people often don't recognise me without my distinctive natural hairstyle.

Today, I might enhance features like my eyelashes with mascara, but my focus is on eating well, exercising, and caring for my skin. This approach helps me feel confident in my natural state. I believe this makes me appear softer, as I'm presenting an organic, real self, free from masks or forced appearances. 

Embracing Your Authentic Strength

Shakia Stewart's story beautifully illustrates that true strength isn't about hardness, but about the profound confidence to embrace your authentic self. Her journey from seeking external validation to celebrating her natural beauty, including her distinctive afro hair, inspires us to redefine strength. By prioritizing self-acceptance and genuine self-care, we can all find liberation from beauty anxiety and foster a deeper, more joyful connection with our own unique beauty.

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